It's not about winning the argument every time. Its about dying to yourself and loving him enough to understand him and put his needs before yours.
Philippians 2:3-4 says
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interests of others.
Your husband is no exception to this rule.
You are not in this marriage to be loved, but to love. And yes, being loved in return is a beautiful byproduct.
Regardless, on your wedding day, you are allowing him to become one with you. From that day forward, you don't only have yourself to look out for. You have a human being, a lover, a soul-mate to consider as part of you. So in every decision you make, you can't help but consider how it will affect him.
Marriage is tough because we are, by nature, selfish people. We want someone to be there for us when WE need them. But you're not only married on days when you need a helping hand, you are married every day for the rest of your life. This means sacrificing your wants and momentary desires for the one that you promised to love.
Marriage is amazingly difficult and amazingly wonderful. You can't sum it up with one fight or one victory. It will be up and down for the rest of your life. But be confident of this. "He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." This means, that until Christ comes back, or until he takes you away, he will be working in you and your husband to love one another more and more every passing day.
1Cor. 13:6 says
Love does not delight in evil, but REJOICES in the truth.
Every morning when you wake up, look for the good in each other. Don't let the enemy attack your thoughts and trick you into thinking that your love is diminishing. Do not let your feelings one day, get in the way of the rest of your life. Because we do NOT act on how we feel, we act on what we know. You know that you are loved by God and by the man you chose to spend the rest of your life with. So rejoice in that truth. Perfect love cast out all fear. So remember that you are loved and all of those fears have no choice but to subside.
Love always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love Never fails." ---
Regardless, on your wedding day, you are allowing him to become one with you. From that day forward, you don't only have yourself to look out for. You have a human being, a lover, a soul-mate to consider as part of you. So in every decision you make, you can't help but consider how it will affect him.
Marriage is tough because we are, by nature, selfish people. We want someone to be there for us when WE need them. But you're not only married on days when you need a helping hand, you are married every day for the rest of your life. This means sacrificing your wants and momentary desires for the one that you promised to love.
Marriage is amazingly difficult and amazingly wonderful. You can't sum it up with one fight or one victory. It will be up and down for the rest of your life. But be confident of this. "He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." This means, that until Christ comes back, or until he takes you away, he will be working in you and your husband to love one another more and more every passing day.
1Cor. 13:6 says
Love does not delight in evil, but REJOICES in the truth.
Every morning when you wake up, look for the good in each other. Don't let the enemy attack your thoughts and trick you into thinking that your love is diminishing. Do not let your feelings one day, get in the way of the rest of your life. Because we do NOT act on how we feel, we act on what we know. You know that you are loved by God and by the man you chose to spend the rest of your life with. So rejoice in that truth. Perfect love cast out all fear. So remember that you are loved and all of those fears have no choice but to subside.
Love always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love Never fails." ---
We act on what we know, not on how we feel. Amen. I was nodding at every line. :) This is a chapter in your story. One you will read at age 55 and priase God that He taught you so much, so much of what was true even before you got to spend years painstakingly realizing it. At 55 it will still be as true. -Essie
ReplyDeletewow, brittany. this note spoke to me on so many levels. thank you SOO much for sharing! jaclyn h.
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